Psychological defenses and one’s subjective sense of self and others

The current state of ‘knowledge’ (one facet of post-modernism) is that everything is open to further discovery.  Current physicists and psychotherapists both understand that there is no ‘ground-floor’ to reality.  Upon further examination, or with new tools or newer theoretical models, we may find things are again not as they seem.

This description is particularly apt in thinking about psychological defenses.  Our minds develop psychological defenses to protect us from ‘knowledge’ or ‘truths’ that might be very painful or conflictual for us to consider about ourselves.  In essence, our mind is playing tricks on us and altering our sense of self,other and reality.

For example, a person who is passive-aggressive (p/a) typically is so because he or she is afraid of their own aggression.  They typically think of themselves as ‘a nice person.’  Others, however, often end up annoyed by this person who ‘is just trying to be helpful.’   The aggression is still there, but instead, the p/a person induces others to feel his/her aggression.  They, in turn, get to feel wronged/misunderstood/that the world is just so harsh.

A person who relies heavily on projection, disavows a particular mental content/thought/feeling and instead attributes it to another. This other person becomes feared/criticized/condemned by the projector.  “Why are you such a …. (racist/homophobe/cheater)?  The projector still has to deal with these thoughts or feelings, but now they are not a troubling inner experience, but rather become contained and personified by another person.

We all have defenses, and they are there to protect us.  When we rely on them too much, they skew our perception of ourselves and others – sometimes in quite predictable ways.  The process of psychotherapy is one in which a person comes to terms with difficult thoughts and feelings, and thus comes to a place in which she or he can rely less on defenses and therefore not alter their perception to such a great level.  In the process, in learning to come to terms with oneself, a new form of peace and wisdom is found.

See also our entry on Acting Out.


SF Clinical Camp 2014

We introduced SF Clinical Camp last year to fill a void – allowing motivated, bright teenagers to learn more about themselves and the world.  This is NOT treatment, but rather a fun and educational experience for teens.  We learn about Freud; subjectivity and defenses (and how defenses impact our subjective sense of self).  We learn about dreams and slips of the tongue.  We also learn about culture, the impact of culture on the individual and the family; about individual and family developmental models.  We finished up with a pretty sophisticated look at one possible psychological function of Facebook.

This year we have an added bonus!  The Chair of the Psychology Department at SFSU has agreed to speak to our campers about research in psychology.  Moreover, interested campers will have an opportunity to participate in research (with their guardian’s permission), and to learn about any study in which they participate.  Lastly, campers can apply to become members of the Society for Research on Adolescence!

This is a very exciting new development for SF Clinical Camp.  Campers are not required to participate in research.  However, it is exciting to have this as an opportunity!